Before I tell you how you can be happy with your life, ask yourself a question
Who is the happiest person you know?
Now I must tell you whoever that person is, he/she may look happy to you just because you think that they are happier than you.
If you search on Google “How to be happy” then there are lots of people telling you how to be happy but most of them are just telling you to affirm something when you wake up morning walks, look for positive, etc. but these all are a temporary solution to your problem as soon as you stop doing the above things you will start feeling unhappy with yourself again
Now here are some common problems faced by many people:
- Soul sucking relationships
- Poor marks
- No friends
- No social life
- No money to enjoy like others
- No special talents or interest in side activities
- Poor physique
- Low self esteem
- Weak communication skills, etc.
Now, if you are thinking you have all those problems you are not alone. These are actually some of the problems I faced in my life but trust me if you think that you can run away from these problems you cannot instead there is only one solution that can help you to be happy even though these problems continue to exist. First of all stop doing all those meaningless affirmations which you downloaded from the internet and accept that your life is shit right now and you are just going through a bad phase. Many smart people tell you to stay positive no matter what. To stay positive you have to accept the negative because ignoring negative is not positive it is also a negative gesture. To stay positive means to accept your current situation and to move forward to change it by taking necessary steps towards it.
You will be happy when you see your current situation as temporary and instead of focusing on that you focus on what lies beyond that because the truth is life is not fair it may hurt you more when you are already hurt and you cannot do anything about it rather than just accepting it. I read many self-help books to be happy but none of them worked unless I realised that it is nature of life to be unfair you cannot live a life full of happiness and not having any problem, these kinds of lives can only be imagined.
Focus on the long term gains rather than settling for short term happiness. To stay happy you have to accept the fact that life sucks sometimes but not always. The time passes, doesn’t matter good or bad. If you still find it difficult to focus on these long-term gains then I suggest you read some self-help books but not those which tell you to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are happy. A person who is happy doesn’t have to look in the mirror and remind himself that he is happy, he just is happy.
No success comes without hard work, struggle, honesty, etc. Are you willing to give up everything to achieve that level of success? If you are, then most probably you will achieve it and in the course of achieving it you may find yourself unhappy but just remember it is temporary when you start seeing the bigger picture you will not pay attention to these things which hold you back. You will be happier because you know it is temporary.
So do not think you are the only one facing those problems there are many of us out there who are similar to you. Sometimes the only problem with us is that we don’t have people to listen to without getting ourselves judged. That’s why I have created this page so you can talk about your problems. I promise you I won’t judge you no matter what you have done. You can always contact me and talk about your problems and I will listen to those, every single one of them.
For the conclusion I am pointing out the main points:
- Focus on the bigger picture,
- Stop reminding yourself that you are happy,
- Accept the life
- Work harder to achieve your goals
- Talk to someone about your problems who doesn’t judge you
- Read self-help books
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